Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Lorenzo Perry Deserved Better

Lorenzo Perry, my dear friend of ten years, passed away at 4:15 AM on Thursday, August 12, 2010. He did not, I’m broken-hearted to say, go “peacefully”. Lorenzo started noticing symptoms at the beginning of 2010, and was diagnosed with esophagus cancer on April 22. He had been undergoing both chemotherapy and radiation treatment. His doctors told him his condition was curable, and that he'd be fine by his birthday (October 17th)! But, in late July or early August, he contracted a double infection in his pericardium. I was the unfortunate person to watch helplessly while he expired. I held his hand, caressed his head, and whispered encouragement to him; urging him to keep fighting and breathing. It was (and is) devastating to me. I loved Lorenzo very much.
He grew up on the south side of Chicago, and attended Bowen High School. He worked, at various times, at the Museum of Science And Industry, at the food court in the Thompson Center, at Northwestern University in Evanston, and did odd jobs, for the now-defunct Frankie J's on Broadway, as well as passing out fliers and doing day labor.
Lorenzo was like a sweet,lovable puppy; he loved unconditionally, and he was utterly guileless; he did not have a malicious fiber in his whole being. He hated nobody, and didn't even habitually use such words as "hate". I never knew anybody who could legitimately assert that he had wronged them. He was the sweetest guy in the whole world. Lorenzo always “accentuated the positive”.
Lorenzo loved to eat, and could cook up a storm (he prepared wonderful entrees, salads and other dishes). Lorenzo loved music, either listening to it, dancing to it, or, on the occasion he found himself in front of a piano, playing one of his favorites, most notably “Chariots Of Fire”. He loved playing computer Pinball, and had been improving at an impressive rate (he was beating the pants off me!).
He was a quick learner; I taught him how to use e-mail and the Internet, and he'd recently begun exploring the possibilities of these technologies. I discovered, through our increasingly extensive correspondence, that his vocabulary was better than most people probably knew. Lorenzo was learning by leaps and bounds, casting off old habits and otherwise growing as a human being.

I'll never get over Lorenzo. For me, the world has changed irreparably; I am inconsolable.

Whatever else can be said, Lorenzo Perry deserved better!!!

Joseph Barazowski, August 14, 2010-Heartbroken and Lost

Lorenzo Perry, An Angel

The following text is the obituary for Lorenzo Perry (10/17/1967-8/12/2010), transcribed from that which appeared on the program for his memorial, which took place at McCollough Funeral Home, 851 E. 75th St., Chicago, Illinois on Saturday, August 21, 2010:

Lorenzo Perry, affectionately known as "Lo", "Reezo" or "Frog", was born in Chicago, Illinois to Willie Frank Sr. and Bernice Perry.

Lorenzo's humorous nature was very hearty and his being was welcoming. Especially while performing his imitation of Dino the dinosaur from the Flintstones cartoon. His large stature shrank in the eyes of children as he made them smile and laugh at his antics. He was a kindhearted and loving man whose outgoing spirit touched the people whom he met. If needed, he would give you the shirt off his back.

Two of Lorenzo's passions were music and food. His interest in music led him to hone his musical ear into a magnificent talent. He was a self taught clarinet and piano player. One song in particular he often played on the piano was Chariots of Fire. He loved to play music but to hear the sounds of House music are what moved him to dance. Lorenzo's love for food was translated into his cooking skill. Even as a kid he would concoct simple ingredients into delectable meals and mouth watering deserts.

On Thursday, August 12, 2010, Lorenzo fell asleep in death at the age of 42.

Lorenzo is survived by his mother, Bernice Perry, brothers Willie Frank Jr., Michael Anthony and Richard Lee Eric; sisters Glenda Marie, Janice Melinda, Donnella & Deidre Narissa; 21 nieces and nephews; 13 great nieces and nephews; and a host of other relatives and friends.

Happy Lorenzo!!!

Lorenzo, around Thanksgiving, 2009.

Friday, August 13, 2010

Goodbye To All

Today is Saturday, August 28, 2010, and this is my final post. By dawn tomorrow, I will have taken an irreversible step.

Well, this is it: Lorenzo Perry was all I had, and now he's gone. I will be joining him shortly. I never believed in any gods or in an afterlife, but I would like to see Lorenzo again. I sincerely hope that this way, I do.